Cultivating relationships take work here are 5 easy ways to do this!
Bless them by beginning to pray for them.
We know that our prayers our lifted to God. He hears our petitions and request. So when we are trying to reach people in our communities or even over media or even across seas, begin with prayer. Here is an example:
“Dear God, I ask that in the name of Jesus you may use me to inspire others by your light in me. God help me touch this persons heart. Help me be patient, loving and tolerant. God I ask that you begin to move in His or Her life in such ways that only point to you Lord. God bring them to me so that I can share You with Them in Jesus Name amen”
Philippians 2:3-4 sums up the reason for cultivating new friendships. “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves, do not merely look out for your own personal interest, but also for the interests of others.”
Bless them by engaging with them and “listening” to them.
When we are approached we are turned away in ways that are the same way to another person. One is having the attitude of being right or having to have the last word. If we are there to represent Jesus Christ then silently and prayerfully engage them with open ears and a open heart to receive who they are. Get to know this person as a human being, understand their feelings and ideas. Carefully watch them how they may respond to your ideas and your thoughts. Friendship is important because we will be embracing trust and opening a door of their past and yours. Discipleship comes with a cost. Investing and planting your heart and energy in someone is what God designed us for. Ask God to Humble you as you begin to work this process with the selected person. Begin to pray for them and listen to their problems and possible advice. Communication is very huge. You can over power someone by the way you come off. Be gentle and loving. Let Christ creep in and do the work while you effortlessly enjoy the moment with a new friend.
James 1:9 “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear “listen” slow to speak, slow to anger.”
This scripture also covers anger, so we are able to say while also hear or listening we also be loving and understanding where they have been and what has happen in their life.
Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool is right in His own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.”
Bless them by “eating” with them
After a while or maybe even in the same day or week it can be a great idea to really have a chance to eat and break bread with them. Invite them to a person time with you to have a meal. This can open the door to them seeing you in public place and how you may respond before eating. If they question these things it actually good. It begins a process of breaking the ice as to why you are there, which is being able to share the gospel of Jesus to them. Over all Christ will reveal Himself to that Person. It is however through us how He or She may receive the impression. We want to reflect Jesus. We want to shine the light of truth but we want to let it be bright enough to be attractive and yet not blinding or glaring. This is a simple act of hospitality. It is also symbolic to the last supper. Remember we are His agents seeking to be His vessels and to engage in the community bringing the opportunity for the Holy Spirit to work in new people.
Acts 2:46 “and day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts,”
Bless them by “serving” them
We as Christs follower learn that Jesus served His disciples. He showed not only Leadership and boldness to stand for Holy living but he humbled Himself before His disciples and washed their feet. It is a profound statement by Our Lord. We must also in our leadership as Disciples turn and serve those who are before and after us. This is unity. This is love. This is the act of a true leader with humility. When we can serve others even when they may not know Christ it can be the very actions you take by serving them that they may see Jesus in you. It may open the door, activation of the Holy Spirit, the very power of God around the person. You alone as a servant leading them to the Cross by your humility and love for them can empower Gods presence within you and around you. God will do the work on this person as you continue to serve the Lord.
Galatians 5:13 “For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, nut through love serve one another.”
1 Peter 4:10 “As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good steward of Gods varied grace”
Bless them by “sharing” you testimony
If by then you have not been able to share Jesus with them you can find the opportunity with that person to share with them your life. What was it like? What happen to you? What is it like now having a relationship with Jesus? Through out this process We can provide complete truth about ourselves, being an open vessel. Let them turn the pages of your history and pains. Memories and victories. Its then when they see your life and how you are able to engage with them and love on them that Jesus is present and powerfully using you as the key. Gods will is to use us to make Disciples. Gods will is to use you to guide others to the Cross of Salvation.
2 Timothy 1:8 “Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord”
Matthew 10:23 “So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in Heaven”
In closing its all about sharing what was shared to us. It is the reason why we are called to salvation first because we were loved and we are now able to share that very love with others. I encourage you today to pour into someone. First seek God ,The kingdom comes first and He will send you someone. Till then embrace who you are and be the light and flavor for those around you.